It’s not unusual in the age of social media to see photos of events you were not invited to. Sometimes it’s a relief, like a big bullet you dodged because the event didn’t look fun anyway. Other times, however, it can be hurtful and angering. “Why wasn’t I invited?” you wonder to yourself. “Did I do something to get on someone’s bad side or am I just too easy to overlook?”
It’s bad enough to ask yourself those questions in your personal life. What happens when you must ask those questions about a work event after seeing a photo posted on Instagram? You click the heart to feign your love for the photo, but you’re peeved. “I would have enjoyed going to that dinner. It’s strange I wasn’t invited. I wonder why.”
One time when this happened to me, I texted a colleague a screenshot of the Instagram post to commiserate and see if she knew why neither of us were invited. She posited that the reason she wasn’t invited was the same reason she often gets overlooked—she’s a 100 percent remote employee. I, unfortunately, have been tasked with trekking to a physical office an hour from my home back and forth three days a week, so that reason wouldn’t apply to me.
The same kinds of questions have been asked over the years of my career about retirement parties and birthday parties thrown for executives by big advertisers: “Why wasn’t I invited?”
Does any of this sound familiar in your organization? How do you ensure that all your employees feel included, so that when you can’t include everyone, they understand why and don’t take it personally?
Inclusivity Includes Inclusive Social Gatherings
The word, “inclusivity,” often refers to including people of all backgrounds, ethnic groups, races, and demographics. That is important to do. It’s especially important to do when considering job opportunities and opportunities for advancement. Yet another area where it’s important is workplace-related social gatherings.
The Website of Konsistent, a workforce management services provider, notes the peril of feeling left out at work, citing another article posted to the site that explores the top reasons people are not as productive as they should be: “According to 10 issues that kill workplace productivity, exclusion can lead to decreased productivity, lowered morale, and increased stress.”
With so much at stake, it’s important to take care when planning events, such as dinners and celebrations, that an inclusive guest list is created, and when you can’t be as inclusive as you would like due to budgetary constraints, that you explain why ahead of time to the employees left out, rather than leaving them to wonder why they were not invited.
Come Up with an Alternate Plan
After explaining to employees why a particular gathering was more exclusive than would be ideal, managers could offer an alternate plan.
For example, a manager could suggest a separate gathering, such as their own dinner or lunch, with an executive who will be retiring, or even an informal party in a conference room with a cake so everyone has a chance to visit with the departing colleague and say goodbye.
Remember Remote and Hybrid Workers
It’s easy to forget remote or hybrid employees. Out of sight, out of mind, as the saying goes.
When creating invitations to dinners at conferences where everyone will be together, it’s important to check and recheck the invitation list. This is especially important if the person creating the invitation is new to the company.
One of the times my colleague and I experienced an exclusion, it was at least partly for this very reason. A new employee created and sent the invitation. He had met both of us but rarely worked with either of us. So we were not top of mind when he thought about who should be part of the event.
Designate a Work Group Invitation Proofreader
Managers could pick a reliable, sensitive, detail-oriented person to be the last set of eyes on any invitation for an event, such as a dinner or celebration, that goes out. That person would be responsible for making sure no one who might want to be a part of the event was unintentionally excluded.
Feeling left out isn’t fun and can make employees feel demoralized and unappreciated, leading to a loss in productivity. How do you ensure employees feel included as much as possible?