Overcoming the Top 5 Barriers to Public Speaking
One of the most accomplished recoveries in public speaking came from the Prime Minister at the UK’s 2018 party conference. In a reference to the previous year’s disaster when letters fell off the inspirational message behind her, she said: “I’ve been up all night gluing the backdrop.”
Theresa May is no orator and her discomfort behind the lectern is palpable, but her audience loved that line. They also appreciated her awkward dancing onto the stage as a self-deprecating reference to her much-derided dance performance on an African visit.
These were not instant recoveries. Yes, May had time to think about it and help with her laugh lines. But the point is that she had a couple of public mishaps and was aware enough to use them to her advantage during another crucial speech.
How to deal with the excruciating embarrassment of getting it wrong in front of an audience of strangers who have no vested interest in seeing you succeed is one of the nightmares that haunts every public speaker, from those giving a simple presentation in the office to the cruel spotlight of the world stage.
Making a speech is a skill that cannot be learned overnight. It takes practice, and that practice eventually must take place in front of a live crowd. May has practiced hard to be merely competent.
It also takes heightened energy levels and self-confidence, both of which deserted her last year. Preparation and practice are crucial, but there are many pitfalls, including:
- Playing it too safe
- Presenting too much material
- Rushing through it
- Taking yourself too seriously
An audience likes someone with whom they can empathize.
Avoiding the Pratfalls of Pitching
Here are five answers to commonly asked questions from people who want to avoid the pratfalls of pitching.
1. What if you blank?
It happens, even to the best. Sometimes the gods are not with you. Learn from it, forgive yourself, move on. Think positive thoughts and get yourself in the zone before you go on. Really though, proper preparation can prevent blanking, so have a plan and know where you are going. And practice, especially the first few minutes. Too many still speak without effective preparation, thinking the slides will do the trick. They won’t.
2. How do you deal with interruptions?
Few of us need to present in overtly hostile environments too often; if that’s happening, you might want to consider a move. Confidence and assertiveness are skills everyone needs 24/7 and never more than when presenting, but one big mistake speakers make is to say at the beginning they will take questions at any time. In other words, you invite the interruption. Having a facilitative style is all fine and dandy, but if it compromises delivery, you need to choose when to invite the interruption and set expectations at the outset. Tell the audience when you are presenting and when you are inviting questions.
3. How do you persuade if your topic is boring?
There are no boring subjects, only boring speakers. Making the emotional connection is an attribute all effective orators have, and there are many ways to do it—the most dangerous and difficult being humor. One key thing to note is that humor is not the only way to connect with an audience. A good analogy or case study (but don’t go on about it for too long…), a speech that is personalized and not jargon-filled corporate nonsense, and great, impactful visuals are all tools that persuade.
4. What if you have a tendency to waffle when you are nervous?
Preparation, preparation, preparation. Many worry about blanking when the bigger danger is going over time by using 100 words for what might be said in 10. Nerves play a part, to be sure, but often the seeds of the waffle-tree are sown in poor preparation. Speak to the purpose, check your draft against that purpose, be disciplined with time, know the details might appeal to you more than your audience, and stop yourself by having notes that tell you to move on.
5. How do you speak to the whole audience when they may all want different things?
The short answer is to be a good speaker who knows how to connect. The other important thing is not to worry that every word you utter is understood by the audience. If, in your preparation and delivery, you obsess about the minutiae, you’ll miss out on the big picture.
Russell Wardrop is co-founder and chief executive at Kissing With Confidence. Based in Glasgow, Kissing With Confidence delivers business development training to professional service companies in the UK and overseas, including its Rainmaker programs that coach people on how to pitch and sell. For further information, e-mail: email@example.com or visit: www.kissingwithconfidence.com